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Respect: 

To treat people in the manner in which you expect to be treated. To show consideration for another person's feelings and interests. An attitude demonstrating that you value another person. You should treat your friends with respect. When I started this blog I didnt plan on devoting many of my posts to rants about things in my life that piss me off. However, today I am posting about something that I not only want but need in life. Yup you guessed it, respect. Too many times people brush off considerations for others and think of only themselves. There are so many kinds of respect and I dont plan on covering all of them. What I do want to discuss is self-respect and respect in relationships.  Too many times I sit down at work or walk down the street and I hear people complaining about how ugly they are or how no one likes them. GROW UP. If you think your ugly then yeah you are. If you are confident and think that you are beautiful then that will show and you will be. Respect yourself enough to be confident in who you are and what you look like! Im not going to sit here and give you a motivational talk about how you need to look into your heart and realize how amazing you are. Im in a bad mood and I would rather tell you to get over it than coddle you. If you havent realized your amazing yet then nothing I say is going to help you. If you spend your days lamenting over the fact that you cant make friends and that no one likes you well then odds are its your own fault. Get up off of your butt and go make some friends. Dont spend all day complaining, ask someone how their day is going. Take the time to think of someone other than your self. There is a fine line between respecting yourself and being full of yourself. A decent amount of self absorption is healthy but dont let that cup overflow. If you can respect yourself and be confident then that is going to spread to others and in turn they are going to respect you too.

Which brings us to the next area of respect that is driving me insane. Respect in relationships. Take a second to talk to someone that you love and ask them whats going on in their life. When they start to talk actually LISTEN. Dont just nod along all the while thinking about what story from this week you want to share with them about your life. People are important, we all need friends, lovers and even people we hate. Thats what really makes our lives worth while. If you make plans with someone, stick to them. Nothing makes me angrier than when someone tells me they are going to do something and then they blow you off. Have enough respect to at least let them know whats going on. Most people are going to understand that your lame excuse is really just that, a lame excuse but they are going to also realize that you need some time by yourself. Everyone ditches others, its just the way that we do it that makes all the difference. Respect someone enough to tell them the truth, Im going to be more understanding if you just tell me straight to my face. It saves time, energy and chocolate. Chocolate only because its what we eat when someone makes us angry. Girls, respect your girlfriends, dont ditch them for your new boytoy. Dedicate at least one day every week to at least one of your gals, paint each others toenails and sip wine. Spend an afternoon taking pictures of each other in your best model poses. Take some time to talk about anything other than boys! This is going to only strengthen your relationship and make you respect each other more. 

Girl friends and Boy friends, spend an entire day together doing as many random things that you can think of, or just have a regular boring day. Work on your homework together, go to the library. Just spending that time in companionable silence is such a respect builder. You dont have to plan a fancy date just to hang out. Most couples are happy being in the same room, no need to go over the top. Respect each other enough to just be yourself, dont gussy up and act macho. You are together because you are attracted to the REAL person behind the dating mask. Go for a walk, throw a snowball, share a milkshake, talk on the phone until your falling asleep, take random funny face pictures do something that lets the other know that you respect them enough to be yourself.

Kids, respect your family. Call your mom or dad tomorrow and tell them that you love them. Call them to not ask for anything, call just to see how they are. This is going to make your entire relationship stronger and open the door to more of these happy chats. It doesnt have to be a long call, a 5 minute phone call can warm up your parents heart just as easily as an hour long call. If you dont want to call a parent then call a brother or a sister, maybe an aunt or uncle. You have people that love you, now show them the respect they deserve by giving them a little of your time. 

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I havent posted in a while and I feel bad, But, I have an excuse! My computer charger decided to stop working and I havent been able to charge my laptop in ages! So here is an update from my life since last post. I have been working nonstop at a call center, thats been lots of fun, I wish I could share stories but thats against policy...Lets just say its a riot and that drunk dialers are my favorite! One momentous occasion occurred this week for me. I had a piece of my body removed...well that just sounds gross. I went to the Emergency Room a couple of times with some horrible pain and found out what was going on.

4 AM in the Emergency Room 

 I had my Gal Bladder removed because it decided to quit working and was thinking about rupturing. This didnt sound very pleasant, so my surgeon and I worked together to get the damn thing out. By working together I mean I slept and he worked. It turned out to be a relatively quick procedure and I was out and on my way within hours. Apparently in my anesthesia induced brain though I told every single worker in the hospital that my surgeon looked like John Stamos, which he did. After telling all of them that I fell asleep for 30 seconds woke back up and told them all again. The 5th time around my nurse patted my head and told me to go back to sleep. The only reason I know this happened is because the nurse told me later....Im so cool.

He looked just like this! Hottest surgeon ever!!!

Right before surgery, had to wear my glasses because they dont let you wear contacts.

They dont let you wear your piercings during surgery either which resulted in my nose ring closing. So I am one piercing less, lucky for me it takes a couple of days before my belly button and lip even think about closing on me! The surgery resulted in me gaining 4 brand new scars on my belly. yay...but they are really small and surgery these days leaves you with far less pain and scar tissue so Im actually really thankful! 

I had the one with the 4 little cuts. 

I am almost done with my recovery and have started limiting my pain pill intake and started to move around and eat real food again. For the first couple days I was like a child! Couldnt eat anything and had to get help walking around and getting up! My family is so amazing for holding my hand through all of this! My triplet Derrick even came by the house from Oregon the night before the surgery and helped me around the house the first day after the surgery. He was awesome!

an hour after the surgery, I was still super high from pills. 

I have to go back to work tomorrow which kind of sucks but Im glad to get my life back to normal sort of! I still have about a week before Im fully recovered but I dont anticipate it really being an issue. Love you all! Thanks for the support!!!